Monthly Archives: January 2012

What Happened To Me?

Fear Not! All Is Well

I awoke this morning, as per usual, cursing and physically abusing the alarm clock. Staggered to the coffee pot (scratching various sectors that men are wont to do). Having garnered a cup of this soothing dark nectar, I made my way to the bathroom for the morning ritual cleansing. Yes, I got coffee BEFORE venturing forth; it’s called “priorities.” Being that I was still only half awake, I felt my way toward the shower knobs and was rewarded by the sound of the water hissing through the “efficiency” showerhead.

This ritual only takes a few moments. I dare not dally lest I fall asleep whilst sudzing or worse, leaving no hot water for anyone else in the house. I stepped forth from the shower, wiped the mirror, drank the last half of the coffee (the first half consumed prior to stepping into the shower), and THAT is when I beheld a horrific sight! There was that monster again. The one that resembles Death Warmed Over! It was naked and dripping wet and it was absolutely terrifying.

Those bags under the bloodshot eyes! Familiar…..yet strange. More coffee would be required before my synapses could fully wrestle with this frightening spectre. Had Bela Lugosi returned from beyond? Did some wayward member of the Rocky Horror cast found its way into my mirror? Does this prove that there is, indeed, life after death?

I poured more coffee into an intravenous line, and returned to my investigation. That’s when it finally hit me, like a freight train, right between the bleary eyes: “Fat Man, you are OLD!” I then remembered how I once thought my own Grandfather was a raging antique who must have been the older brother of Methuselah, for he bore a striking resemblance to this creature I now saw staring back at me.

Where did the time go?

Who siphoned the youth from my veins and stuffed all that excess “fluff” in me whilst I slumbered?

When did my Fab Abs become Abs of Flab?

Against whom shall I file suit for damaging not only my psyche, but my body?

Could it be that somewhere along the path of life, time had passed me by?

Have I become “old”?

Should I begin wearing white socks with black dress shoes to cut the grass?

How does one respond to this “stage of life” with any dignity? Well, I guess I’ll have to respond the same way I have for the last forty-some-very-odd years: With a rousing “Dignity be Cursed!” I’ve got a life to live and I’m planning to enjoy every breath of it. I fully intend to make a difference somewhere along this journey. I may have slowed a bit, my hair may have gray highlights, I may listen to “oldies” like Jerry Garcia, The Beatles, and the lot, but I’m not through living yet! I’m not going to give in to antique-hood until I’m forced to.

Life is for LIVING, not for hiding!

Now…break out the pudding and let’s party! Okay, maybe a nap first.

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Your Past

One of the biggest sources of our frustration is…our past!  For some reason we are so focused on the past that, instead of letting it shape our future, we let it dictate our future.  We let our past limit who we can become.

We worry about what others will think of us if they discover our past, how we can avoid revealing our past, and even how we can alter (or eliminate) our past.

Here are some facts to consider:

1. Your past is yours!  Whatever you did or didn’t do is part of who you are NOW.

2. Whatever you did or didn’t do cannot be done or undone NOW.

3. HOWEVER, simply because history is carved in stone does not mean it is so. What do I mean? Simple, I could have carved into a nice piece of marble or granite that I am the sexiest creation ever! That may (or may not) have once been true, but I seriously doubt that is still the case. Thus, just because it’s carved into historical stone does not mean I’m doomed to be the sexiest creation ever forever.  And just because there may be (or may not be) mistakes, errors, blunders or complete screw-ups in your past does not mean you are doomed for the rest of forever.

I remember learning about the Ancient Egyptians (NO, not first hand, thank you), they carved lots of tidbits of information into stone and *gasp* not all of it was, or is, true.  I know, shocking isn’t it? 

If you’ve got bits of your past that are giving you trouble, there’s really nothing you can do about changing them or making them go away, but you can decide whether they are going to shape who you are or enslave you.  Part of this decision might be to shed some things, habits, and/or people from your life.  But remember, it is YOUR life.

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Facing The Facade

Why Hide Who You Are?

We only let others see the face that we allow them to see.  

It’s been carefully carved by our experiences. 

Designed to hide who we truly are and how we truly feel.

And specially crafted so no one will see the scars beyond the facade.

We don’t like people to get too close or they might just discover our flaws…they may see our imperfections.  We like for people to see only the image that we want them to see, but that may not be who we are.

Why are we afraid? 

Could it be that we don’t think anyone will like who we really are? Possibly.

Could it be that we don’t think much of ourselves and want to hide from us? Could be.

Could it be that we feel we might get hurt if we are too vulnerable? Absolutely!

Let’s face it, there will always be people who don’t like who we really are.  They will try to convince that “if you were only more like…” then you would be likable.  

 And while it’s true that we all could do with some improving, we have to be able to look in the mirror and tolerate who looks back.  

It is also true that we will get hurt as we go through life.  Scars prove that we have lived.  While it’s maddening to know that we will feel pain (because pain hurts), we must realize that we are not alone in our hurt. 

Let the mask fall. 

Be you.

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Do You Fear The Simple Things?

Don't Fear The Simple Things!


…playing in the puddles after a hard rain

…laughing so hard that you snort

…the mustaches after drinking chocolate milk

…the smile of a child

…feeling the wind

…your first kiss

…the smile of your first love

…the warmth of someone’s hand around your shoulders when you needed a friend.

…the comfort of a hug from a loved one

…the cleansing relief from a good cry

…the feeling of victory when you won a game

…the camaraderie you felt with your friends

…the way you feel when you hear your favorite song

These are but a few of the best things in life.  And they best part is that they’re free!  AND we can still share them. AND there’s no reason to fear the simple things in life!

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The Dreamer Within!

Will You Dream or Stay Comfortably Numb?

What inspires you to dream? TRULY dream!  Dream of possibilities that are beyond the beyond the boundaries of your limitations up to this point?  Read the lyrics of the song and let your mind and heart soar to new dreams.  Become the Dreamer!

“Your Wildest Dreams”

Once upon a time
Once when you were mine
I remember skies
Reflected in your eyes
I wonder where you are
I wonder if you
Think about me
Once upon a time
In your wildest dreams

Once the world was new
Our bodies felt the morning dew
That greets the brand new day
We couldn’t tear ourselves away
I wonder if you care
I wonder if you still remember
Once upon a time
In your wildest dreams

And when the music plays
And when the words are
Touched with sorrow
When the music plays
I hear the sound
I had to follow
Once upon a time
Once beneath the stars
The universe was ours
Love was all we knew
And all I knew was you
I wonder if you know
I wonder if you think about it
Once upon a time
In your wildest dreams

And when the music plays
And when the words are
Touched with sorrow
When the music plays
And when the music plays
I hear the sound
I had to follow
Once upon a time

Once upon a time
Once when you were mine
I remember skies
Mirrored in your eyes
I wonder where you are
I wonder if you
Think about me
Once upon a time
In your wildest dreams
In your wildest dreams
In your wildest dreams

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Heroic Living

Be The Hero.....LIVE!!!



So many people seem to have succumbed to the notion that their self-worth is determined by other people. If other people don’t like what we have to say, what we wear, what we drive, who we date, then our self-worth becomes damaged and then depression sets in.

Advertisers take advantage of this notion at every turn by suggesting that their product/service will make you the envy everyone else and your self-worth will skyrocket.

Here’s a little tidbit that might be considered important enough to remember:
“Self-worth” is determined by what I think of myself.

I am the one who has to live with me, thus it follows that I am the one who determines my own value. If I let other people determine my worth then I am selling myself short!

Think about it! You are unique! There may be people who are similar in appearance or have similar tastes or have similar personalities, but each person is unique! That means each person is special and highly valued! I am fearfully and wonderfully made! There’s not another person exactly like me anywhere EVER!

Even “identical” twins have differences that make them unique. As you go through today always remember that YOU are the one who determines your worth and value. No one else!

If others don’t agree with you, that’s their problem, not yours. If others dislike you, that’s their problem, not yours. Take control of your own life and live it fully, without reserve!

Live each day as though it were your last. Live each day so that you have no regrets!

Live without giving in to the “coulda, woulda, shoulda” mentality. It’s YOUR life, LIVE IT! Make a difference in this very day.

Make your motto: Ago Vacuus Desiderium (“Live Without Regret).

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If No One Judged You…

What would YOU do differently than you do now?  


We are all self-conscious to varying degrees when we know people are watching.  We tend to believe they are judging us based on what we do, how we act, what we say and how we look.  And, it’s most likely true, we are constantly judging others and are being judged.

One of my hobbies is watching people.  Some might call it a Social Experiment, some might call it odd, some might call it spying….I find it interesting to watch people.  Not in a stalker sort of way, just sit on a bench in the park or in a mall or even when I’m driving somewhere.  It’s amazing the things people will do when they don’t think anyone will see them, much less judge them.

But what would you?  Would you write a book?  Would you open a restaurant?  Would you dance more often (outside of the privacy of your own room)?  Would you skip down the street?  Would you laugh more?  Would you finally relax and let the stick fall out?  Would you try something new?  Would you be more free with your emotions?

People are going to judge us.  That’s one of the downsides to being human.  But WE have the choice whether or not their opinions will change who we are or not.  Are you living their life or yours?

See? I’m not completely lost, just weird!



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Dance Weirdly!

We zing around the Sun on this spinning blue marble and seldom pay attention to what’s around us.  I mean truly pay attention.  Sir Arthur Conan Doyle had his famous character, Sherlock Holmes, rebuke Dr. Watson by saying, “You see, but you do not observe.”  


We do this most of our time on this rock.  We toddle along locked in our own lives, focused only on what pertains to us, hearing only “blah, blah, blah…food…blah, blah, blah…money…blah, blah, blah…health…blah, blah, blah…news.”  


What if we woke up one morning and actually listened to the music that’s all around us? What if we actually looked at the amazing world around us?  What if we truly cared?  How would that change your life?


Would you laugh more? Would you dance? Would you sing? Would you LIVE? Truly Live?


Here’s my point, we only get one life ride here, make the most of it.  You can choose to be miserable because of the circumstances, or you can choose to LIVE in spite of the circumstances!  Choose to hear, or choose to listen.  Choose to sit, or choose to dance!  


So……choose!  See? I’m not lost, just weird.




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Are We Truly Idiots?

“Human Beings, who are almost unique in having the ability to learn from the experiences of others, are also remarkable for their apparent disinclination to do so.” – Douglas Adams

This is sad because of the truth of the matter. We don’t seem to be able to learn, or rather, we don’t seem to want to learn, and are thus doomed to repeating the same mistakes over and over. If I see someone attempt to touch the blue part of a flame and they scream in agony, logic would dictate that I learn not to attempt the same feat.

Yet, the reality of the matter is that I will most likely think I can do it without harm, and a trip to the doctor later, I’m ready to come up with another approach, still determined that I can do it.

While it IS true that invention comes from learning how NOT to do a thing, isn’t it also true that we should learn that some things should just not be done? In observing others learning how not to do a thing, we should be able to learn how a thing is to be done or that it should not be attempted.

Just my muddled mind wandering about the countryside unattended and without sufficient caffeine.

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Perspective Perception


 I tend to think of myself in terms of my circumstances based on the situations in which I find myself planted or dropped or flung or shot.  When I look at my circumstances, my perspective is limited to the boundaries of my situation.  I look at others and think their lives are so much better than mine is like living in the smallest house on the beach. 

If I take a step back and realize, “I LIVE at the BEACH!” the size of the house becomes irrelevant.  Why? Because of the change in perspective!  Perspective can completely alter the way you perceive yourself, your situation, and your place in this universe!

I challenge you (and me) to step back for just a moment and change your perspective perception. 

I’m not lost, just weird most of the time.

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