As a youngster, people annoyed me. When it came time to go to the play yard, I would find some out of the way place and read. My parents and teachers thought I had a mental problem or had anti-social tendencies. I, on the other hand, while not realizing at the time I was introvertish, simply didn’t like all the noise and activity. It made me tired, and gave me a headache, and, quite honestly, just prefer the exercise of my mind.
While I don’t claim to know or understand all the physiological, mental, spiritual, emotional, or complete oddness of introversion, I do acknowledge that “I Are One”. During social gatherings a plan is developed and put in place almost as complicated as Mission Impossible. While there’s no secret, self destructing mission messages, there is a cooperative effort amongst a close band of friends that is triggered upon the issuance and acceptance of the obligatory social activity invitation.
A pre-arranged time is set for our departure strategy. This will usually be no later than 90 -120 minutes into the soiree. At the predetermined time, the chosen individual will pocket dial the rest of us, or develop some sort of distress (stress of these situations does this), or we will step out for some air and slip away. We will make a point to thank our host, upon our arrival, for inviting us.
Admittedly, during company dinners, this strategy is not easily employed, but we tend to arrive early to select our seats near the exit so we can make discretionary escapes to the lobby and/or lavatory as needed. Having a bar in the lobby is quite helpful until the bartender gets tired of our escaping there.
I happened upon a wonderful book by Sophia Dembling called “The Introvert’s Way” (shameless plug that I don’t get any royalties for), and upon reading it, saw my own life habits in her words. Needless to say, it is always good to know that Introverts are not alone, even though we like to spend time alone. There should be a club where we each have our own soundproof cube and can all be alone together.
Anyway, where was I going with this? Oh yeah, a few things about introverts I have learned:
- Introverts are weird, not psychotic.
- Introverts recharge our minds by being quiet and processing.
- Introverts can sit together for hours without speaking more than 3 sentences.
- Introverts ARE social, just not in the way some might think.
- Introverts have an incredible sense of humor, albeit sometimes subtle and dry.
- Introverts enjoy having coffee conversations (if you talk with coffee in your mouth it will burn and stain, so the silence pockets are greatly desired).
Please do not take offense, but I am one of those insane people who believe libraries are for reading, not chatting or eating or engaging in various amorous activities in the reference sections. If you have the need to smack or pop your chewing gum, rattle your candy wrappers, or have a nasal ailment, please step to the restroom and deal with that, as a courtesy.
Which brings me to another question: Why are the wrappers for foodstuffs always so loud?
Anyway, that’s what has been meandering between my ears for now. Feel free to ponder at will.